Dare To Be Fabulous concept

Here Johanna and I are daring all of you to be fabulous, and I gotta tell you, sometimes it just takes all the energy we have just to maintain “average,” let alone “fabulous”! I think we are all just trying to keep up with our daily lives, making sure nothing falls through the cracks and that everything that needs to get done gets done. That sure doesn’t leave time for those fabulous moments, or adventures, or life-changing decisions, does it?

When Johanna and I first conceived of the Dare To Be Fabulous concept, we realized that it was an idea that energized us and sparked our imaginations. We truly believe DTBF has that effect on many women, and the wonderful essays we have received for the book attest to that. On the other hand, I joked with Johanna at one point that some days I felt like there was no way I could live up to the idea of Daring To Be Fabulous – I would just be lucky if I could Try Not To Be Pathetic! Good friend and fabulous woman that she is, Johanna understood, but did not encourage me in that mindset!

The point is that each day we are in a different place in our lives, in our energy levels, in our inspiration, in our health. Some days, daring to be fabulous is jumping into a fountain and frolicking like you were in your very own Fellini movie. Some days it’s signing up for that trip down the Amazon you always wanted to take, or starting your novel. But many days, daring to be fabulous is just being able to get through the day doing the best you can. While we should always dream big and set the bar high, the essence of daring to be fabulous is in those little moments where we feel like we are too tired or overwhelmed to go on and yet go on anyway. And fabulousness can even be allowing yourself that much-needed and well-deserved cry.

While life can sometimes (or often) seem to be getting the best of us, daring to be fabulous is remembering that you just are fabulous and that you deserve to take care of yourself too the way you take care of your loved ones or your home or your job. Work hard, but take a moment for yourself. Making it a goal to exercise these little muscles of fabulousness will pave the way for the bigger moments of fabulousness to come.

While I can’t say I’ve ever frolicked in a fountain like a ’60s Italian movie star, I do remember splashing in a puddle on a hot day, one that all the other “grown-ups” were trying to avoid. I followed an irresistible split-second urge to jump in hard with both feet, making the biggest splash possible – two or three times! – my shoes and legs were all wet and muddy, but I felt cooled by the water, refreshed and happy like a little kid with no responsibilities! I remember nothing else at all about that day. Just that tiny silly moment over 20 years ago. I’m glad I followed that little impulse and I look at it now as totally DTBF.

Dare To Be Fabulous can be just letting it all go for a moment, on a day that might otherwise be ordinary, or stressful, or too structured. Just bust out of that structure for one second. Come on … I dare ya!


  • Why should we all dress after the same fashion? The frost never paints my windows twice alike.~ Lydia Maria Child