“Chick lit grows up”

“10 years after ‘Bridget Jones’, chick lit grows up, gets serious and stops wearing pink jump.” This is the title of a feature article by Heidi Benson that was printed in the San Francisco Chronicle’s Book Review. In the article, Benson addresses the rising interest in women’s anthologies.

“Women are reading more of these books — both anthologies and self-help,” says Louisa Ermelino of Publisher’s Weekly. “We want to see ourselves reflected.”

Our thoughts, indeed!

Read the article at http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/c/a/2006/05/09/DDG8MIMKB51.DTL


Feature Story in May’s Bay Area BusinessWoman

Patti and I are very proud that Dare To Be Fabulous is featured in the May 2006 issue of Bay Area BusinessWoman, a publication available throughout the San Francisco bay area (and online). The tag line: “Connecting women in commerce, community and the arts”.

You can link to the featured story here: http://babwnews.com/article.php?id=583&action=

This publication came to my attention when I first moved to the bay area four years ago. The positive spirit of this paper, celebrating women and offering a way for all of us to connect, is truly in the spirit of Dare To Be Fabulous. To have DTBF featured in the May issue is heart-warming.

Peruse their website and share your feedback! They’d like that. 🙂



DTBF tees and undies, my oh my!

Dare To Be Fabulous
long-sleeve tees, short-sleeve tees and undies! These items will soon be available for orders through our boutique page. Watch for them in April!

Honoring Betty Friedan and Coretta Scott King

We honor two fabulous women who died this week: Betty Friedan and Coretta Scott King. Women who were part of the revolutionary movements of the 1960s and continued throughout their lives to generate change and awaken consciousness in people everywhere. Women who defied the societal standards of their time and proposed the radical notion that men and women, and all races, were created equal.

Betty Friedan

Betty Friedan became world famous for her book “The Feminine Mystique,” a book she wrote while living as a suburban housewife in New York. She had graduated from Smith College in 1942 and later studied with the renowned psychologist, Erik Erikson at U.C. Berkeley. When she was offered a second prestigious fellowship in the graduate school of Psychology, her husband pressured her to turn it down. It was then that she wrote “The Feminine Mystique” (published in 1963). This book was founded on the notion that men and women were created equal and analyzed how women had been affected in the years following World War II by their expected societal roles and their limited means to fulfill career aspirations. In later editions, the issue of choice was also integrated into the book. In 1966, Ms. Friedan helped found the National Organization of Women. And then, in 1971, with Gloria Steinem and Bella Abzug, she founded the Women’s Political Caucus. Ms. Friedan wrote several other books, but it was “The Feminine Mystique” that continued to provoke questions and to inspire women, and men, all over the world, to transform themselves and the societies they lived in. She died on Saturday, her 85th birthday, of congestive heart failure.

Read a Summary and Essays on “The Feminine Mystique”

Read about all of Betty Friedan’s books

Coretta Scott King

Coretta Scott King died Monday at the age of 78. She was in Mexico at an alternative medicine clinic, where she was being treated for advanced ovarian cancer. Mrs. King is the first woman and the first black person to lie in honor at the Georgia State Capitol, a place long regarded as the hotbed of segregation, and the location in which her husband, Martin Luther King, Jr., first began his quest to raise the spirit of his fellow citizens to empower themselves and to claim their civil rights by no longer accepting the intense racism and prejudice that prevailed in the world around them. He won the Nobel Peace Prize and created a wave of change that Mrs. King continued to undulate in her own quiet and noble manner after Martin Luther King Jr’s assassination in 1968.

From her biography on the King Center’s website, here is the brief biography of Coretta Scott King:

“Coretta Scott King is one of the most influential women leaders in our world today. Prepared by her family, education, and personality for a life committed to social justice and peace, she entered the world stage in 1955 as wife of the Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and as a leading participant in the American Civil Rights Movement. Her remarkable partnership with Dr. King resulted not only in four talented children, but in a life devoted to the highest values of human dignity in service to social change. Mrs. King has traveled throughout our nation and world speaking out on behalf of racial and economic justice, women’s and children’s rights, gay and lesbian dignity, religious freedom, the needs of the poor and homeless, full-employment, health care, educational opportunities, nuclear disarmament and ecological sanity. In her distinguished and productive career, she has lent her support to democracy movements world-wide and served as a consultant to many world leaders, including Corazon Aquino, Kenneth Kaunda, and Nelson Mandela.”

For more information: http://www.thekingcenter.org/

Read or listen to NPR’s report about Coretta Scott King

Coretta Scott King and Betty Friedan, two women from different walks of life, made a difference in the world by being true to themselves and voicing their beliefs in freedom and equality. May they continue to inspire us all.



DTBF at the White House!

From DTBF subscriber, Bonnie. DTBF at the White House!!! Isn’t this great?

Hey, if any of you have DTBF photos that you would like to share with our site visitors and subscribers, send them along for our consideration. Maybe we’ll start a photo page!

Road Trip

My love and I just went on a road trip through Nevada to Colorado and Utah. We drove on 50, the Loneliest Highway, and stayed in ma and pa motels along the way. When we got to Colorado, we hiked and explored, going from Denver to the Rockies to the Collegiate Peaks. Then, it was on to Utah’s Arches and Canyonlands. We ate greasy food from fast food drive-throughs and stopped at supermarkets to get fresh fruit and vegetables and some micro-brewed beers for the evenings. We had no music with us. It was just us and the wind and AM radio. Occasionally, we’d tune into an NPR station or a 70s rock station, but mostly it was talk radio or country music. My love sang songs and the longer he drove, the sillier he got.

It took me three days to fully decompress. For the first two days my brain was always going back to thinking about what I forgot to do at work or what I should do when getting back. Finally, after we got to the Rockies, I was back in the moment again, relaxed, connected, happy. For the next few days, I soaked in the surroundings and took in the adventure like a drug. It was peaceful yet invigorating to be in such beautiful natural settings, to hike up long trails with no one else in sight and view the expanse of mountain vistas or canyons, as far as the eye could see. No cars. No machines. No voices. No signs of civilization. Just our breath and our songs and our quiet conversations.

For me, this is when I am most “myself.” When I no longer think about whether I’m “enough.” When I no longer question my choices based on whether or not they may or may not be popular or accepted or even understood. And it occurs to me that this has always been the case for me, growing up the way I did.

For me, traveling is the adventure. Finding a destination is temporary. The movement is the thing. My ego fades. My spiritual being takes over. I don’t think so much from the outside. I just am. And in that space, all is well. All is fabulous. For me, this is DTBF. To simply be. To be at peace with myself and to feel connected to the pulse of life that is all around. I feel so vibrant and happy.

Sometimes, when I’m in the mode of the routines of daily living and working, I feel like a baseball player fielding balls. I’m on alert and at the ready for a line drive or a fly ball, a stolen base or an error. The phone is ringing incessantly and hundreds of Emails wait for a reply. Everyone wants answers and wants them now. I feel laden with expectations. The to-do list grows exponentially. It can be such a striking contrast to the peace I experience in Nature.

Ah, but Nature is right outside my front door. And as long as I can walk on an isolated trail, stand on the beach and listen to the ocean, or hear birds singing their beautiful songs, I am able to keep coming back to that place of peace and connection and vibrancy. And this is what keeps me ticking. This is what fuels me. This is what makes me feel absolutely fabulous.


Dare To Be Fabulous concept

Here Johanna and I are daring all of you to be fabulous, and I gotta tell you, sometimes it just takes all the energy we have just to maintain “average,” let alone “fabulous”! I think we are all just trying to keep up with our daily lives, making sure nothing falls through the cracks and that everything that needs to get done gets done. That sure doesn’t leave time for those fabulous moments, or adventures, or life-changing decisions, does it?

When Johanna and I first conceived of the Dare To Be Fabulous concept, we realized that it was an idea that energized us and sparked our imaginations. We truly believe DTBF has that effect on many women, and the wonderful essays we have received for the book attest to that. On the other hand, I joked with Johanna at one point that some days I felt like there was no way I could live up to the idea of Daring To Be Fabulous – I would just be lucky if I could Try Not To Be Pathetic! Good friend and fabulous woman that she is, Johanna understood, but did not encourage me in that mindset!

The point is that each day we are in a different place in our lives, in our energy levels, in our inspiration, in our health. Some days, daring to be fabulous is jumping into a fountain and frolicking like you were in your very own Fellini movie. Some days it’s signing up for that trip down the Amazon you always wanted to take, or starting your novel. But many days, daring to be fabulous is just being able to get through the day doing the best you can. While we should always dream big and set the bar high, the essence of daring to be fabulous is in those little moments where we feel like we are too tired or overwhelmed to go on and yet go on anyway. And fabulousness can even be allowing yourself that much-needed and well-deserved cry.

While life can sometimes (or often) seem to be getting the best of us, daring to be fabulous is remembering that you just are fabulous and that you deserve to take care of yourself too the way you take care of your loved ones or your home or your job. Work hard, but take a moment for yourself. Making it a goal to exercise these little muscles of fabulousness will pave the way for the bigger moments of fabulousness to come.

While I can’t say I’ve ever frolicked in a fountain like a ’60s Italian movie star, I do remember splashing in a puddle on a hot day, one that all the other “grown-ups” were trying to avoid. I followed an irresistible split-second urge to jump in hard with both feet, making the biggest splash possible – two or three times! – my shoes and legs were all wet and muddy, but I felt cooled by the water, refreshed and happy like a little kid with no responsibilities! I remember nothing else at all about that day. Just that tiny silly moment over 20 years ago. I’m glad I followed that little impulse and I look at it now as totally DTBF.

Dare To Be Fabulous can be just letting it all go for a moment, on a day that might otherwise be ordinary, or stressful, or too structured. Just bust out of that structure for one second. Come on … I dare ya!


  • Well-behaved women rarely make history. ~ Laurel Thatcher Ulrich